Growing up with three sisters, you never had to wonder if it looked like you were trying too hard because the second you came out of your room or the bathroom, there would be about 2-3 comments waiting for you. At first it was alright because no one really wants to have to think harder than they need to whether it be about clothes or what to eat for lunch, but at some point, it gets annoying, especially when opinions conflict and you find yourself on the defensive pulling the "individual card" and declaring "I like this, so shut your face." It's the hard knock path towards developing personal style.
Just as you can like things for no apparent reason, you can also dislike things for no real apparent reason and picking up on this hunch is the first step in assessing if you look like you're trying too hard. Now for those who don't have a series of sisters for a 2nd, 3rd, 4th, and 5th opinion, there's a fairly easy exercise to follow.
Considerations:
1. Silhouette Comfort
- Not the hoodies and sweatpants comfortable, but the "am I comfortable with this silhouette?" it can range from t-shirt and jeans to cocktail lounge dresses. Generally, do you feel comfortable in public being in this ensemble? It can be an ensemble that you've never tried out before, but you like the silhouette so there is still a degree of comfort. Comfort zones are a lot bigger than you think. This doesn't have any bearing on physical comfort as there are many willing to put up with blisters on their feet just to look good.
2. Environment
- Where are you going and what will the weather be like? No platform sandals at the beach. No silk pencil skirts to a backyard barbecue. No heavy makeup to an outdoor excursion or any other situation where it will be likely that you'll sweat that make up off.
Exceptions:
If you have internal issues with thermal regulation (i.e. had your thyroid gland removed), or you're sick any accommodative dressing is quite acceptable.
Next
To establish your comfort level, you need to establish the criteria for your clothing. If your clothing doesn't fit your criteria, than it makes sense for you to not feel comfortable and as such you can end up worrying more about your clothes than things like engaging people in interesting conversation. The main objective is to get dressed and not worry about your clothes after that point.
